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How To Find Sexual Surrender Through Perfectionism

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Today I surrender.

Do you know the feeling of needing to do more, to the point of butchering your original desire & inspiration?

If yes, I feel you.

I’ve struggled insanely with perfectionism for too much of my life.

It’s stifled my creativity, it’s stopped me from speaking up, and it’s stopped me from being able to let go of control… and drop into orgasm.

If you’ve suffered from perfectionism, you know, as I know, that it’s the ultimate self-sabotaging device.

It makes you believe you need to work harder, do more, cover all bases, to have several backup plans, to orchestrate several support systems to run smoothly. It exhausts you, and your efforts never match your anticipated result. Which leaves you wanting to give up.
Abandon ship. Sabotage.

Please lean in, I need to tell you something.

There’s a very tender, soft, vulnerable, palpable beauty inside of you. Unconscious armors built up around your internal beauty when you perfect, and they are aching to be released.
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How to Be Real Respectfully

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Ever feel like you’re talking to an alien when you express your feelings to your partner/lover?
Um, yeah, I’ve been there.

I used to explain and explain and explain my feelings. Nothing would land until I was pushed to the point of frustrated tears.

If you relate to this, before you blame your partner for being an alien, ask yourself:

Why do you feel the need to explain?

Forget ‘Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars’.

Out beyond the ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field I'll meet you there. - Rumi Click To Tweet

Here’s what I didn’t understand, and learned the hard way.

You never need to explain your feelings.

“I feel” is enough.

It’s not your job to come up with a solution.

It’s not your job to try to overcome feelings.

It’s not your job to feel guilty about how you feel.

It’s not your job to justify what you feel.

It’s not your job to fix your feelings.

It’s not your job to fix or take care of anyone else’s feelings.

Your only job is to feel your feelings. Know your feelings. Express your feelings.

And not blame anyone in the process.

That’s Respect.

© Krista Kujat


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